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Chapter 916 Persuasion

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    When Chu Lihua went back, Meng Xianxiang was still waiting for her in the living room.

    ——"Now that the temperature drops at night, why didn't you know to bring the child back earlier? Qing Yunfei's face has been in a bad mood since you left."

    ——"I'm really sorry, I'm also Forget it, it's useless to say anything now. Brother, you're still waiting for me at this late hour, go to sleep."

    ——"I think you're pretty energetic anyway, tell me, what are your plans now?"

    ——"Planning? Then I'll come and find you after I settle the twins."

    I think so, everyone is busy with their own affairs during the day, so there is such a time.

    When Chu Lihua came out again, Meng Xianxiang had already brewed a pot of rose tea and waited for her.

    ——"Brother, what do you want to say to me?"

    Chu Lihua walked over, and consciously took a sip of the poured scented tea.

    ——"Have you thought about it? This matter can't be done so hastily several times."

    —— "Think about it? Are you talking about Liu Xingting?"

    ——"I think you have a lot of debts in favor, and that friend of Yang Shichao is also eyeing you."

    ——"Brother, Wu Ming was the one who left me in Beijing and I followed all the way back to Beijing covered in scars. I loved him too much at the time. Now, I don't have the heart anymore.

    As for Qing Yunfei, he is indeed a good husband; but what I want is a good companion for a lifetime.  And he doesn't understand me.  I don't understand him either.  We were just trying to please each other, but it backfired.  "

    ——"Then why did you marry him then?"

    ——"Because he is a child who grew up in a happy family. I want such a husband's family. But now that I think about it, I haven't stayed with my husband's family for a long time. Although Qing Yunfei is a good person, he has a lot of connections with me.  difference."

    ——"Men and women are the biggest difference. Can you guarantee that Liu Xingting will be with you forever?"

    ——"From one point to the end? Brother, every woman actually hopes so. But you can't force yourself to go down when you are unhappy!"

    Meng Xianxiang sighed, "The most important thing is the children. Do you understand what I mean?"

    Chu Lihua was taken aback, yes!  Now I seem to have lost my original intention.

    In the beginning, what I cared most about was the next generation.

    No, the real happiness of a family depends on the relationship between husband and wife.  This is psychologically speaking.

    ——"Brother, do you know? When I was young, I always felt that good things happened around me, and we thought it was caused by ourselves, and when bad things happened, we also blamed ourselves.

    Good parents will use love and patience to help us understand what we should be responsible for and what we should not be responsible for.  As a result, we slowly get out of this narcissism.

    However, if the parents say, yes, you did cause all the bad things, the child will not be able to get out of the bad narcissism.

    Unfortunately, Qing Yunfei is such a person. After losing his temper with an innocent child, many parents will confidently say, all this is your fault!

    I do this because it is actually good for the children.  Don't look at Qing Yunfei taking care of the children very hard now.  However, his temper is always a ticking time bomb.

    Once it explodes, I can't bear it, let alone a small child?  "

    —— "But that Liu Xingting you mentioned, will he really treat the children well? After all, this is not his child.

    Moreover, according to what you just said, children are narcissistic. When parents divorce, she will think that it is because she is not good that parents divorce.

    Correspondingly, if a good thing happens around them, children will also naively think that they caused this good thing to happen.  In this way, don't you think it is counterproductive?  "

    Chu Lihua pursed her lips, "Liu Xingting is also a poor child. I believe that only after the pain will he understand the importance of parents to children.

    As for the worry you mentioned, I have considered it.  Children will not form a complete self until they are about three years old, that is to say, to have this idea, at least when the child is three years old.  And I, now have to hurry up.  "

    Meng Xianxiang helped his forehead, why did he feel that his persuasion was also counterproductive.

    Listening to these words, Qing Yunfei behind the door wondered if he could change his temper, otherwise the hope was too slim.

    Qing Yunfei behind the door clenched his fist tightly, "Chu Lihua!"

      The conversation in the living room continued, and he had to listen patiently behind the door.

    Meng Xianxiang thought for a while and then continued, "Children can recognize people at a very young age. Look at Xiaoqi, she has always liked me more than her. Because I spend a lot of time with her. She was only about one year old at that time."  .

    And Qing Yunfei has been taking care of the children since they were born.  "

    Chu Lihua was silent.

    It is natural for children to take good and bad things on themselves, and all children are like this.

    If it is true what Meng Xianxiang said, then the twins

    However, good parents will help children understand what is really caused by him and what is not his responsibility.

    But bad parents are the opposite, they like to shirk responsibility, narcissistic and weak children are undoubtedly the best targets.

    Therefore, if the parents of the twins are good, they will gradually get out of narcissism, but if they meet parents who like to shirk their responsibilities, it will be difficult for them to get out of the trap of narcissism.

    When I become an adult, I will still habitually think that I am indeed bad, so it is right for my parents to abuse me.

    In other words, the crux of the problem is that Qing Yunfei likes to shirk responsibility too much.

    Seeing that Chu Lihua hadn't spoken for a long time, Meng Xianxiang stood up and patted her on the shoulder, "Sister, think about it carefully. Brother must hope that you and the children live happily ever after."

    Qing Yunfei behind the door hurried back to the bed.

    Meng Xianxiang went back to the house, and Chu Lihua also went back to the house.  However, she couldn't fall asleep for a long time.

    The cornerstone of mental health is facing the truth about your own life, not blind optimism.

    why?  Because, our "mental self" is based on our past.  Rogers, an American psychologist as famous as Freud, said that a person's psychology is composed of all his experiences.

    These truths of life, once they happen, are destined to be unchangeable.  If you want to deny these facts, you are actually denying yourself. We must learn to admit the past and not compete with anything in the past.

    Divorce, like the original family, is a fact that has already happened, and there is no need to entangle it.

    Regarding children, is there really no better solution?

    Liu Xingting will definitely be good to the children, but how long can he last?

    In case he and his child are born in the future, he can still

    Chu Lihua blushed involuntarily.  (Remember the site URL: www.hlnovel.com
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