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Chu Lihua thought of a colleague of hers in her former company who was never afraid of being rejected when doing sales promotion. No matter how many times she is rejected, she can still communicate with customers with high emotions next time, and promote new lines and new packages.
She is an employee of the company with a million-dollar order, and the boss gives her privileges. As long as she has customers and performance, she doesn't care what she does when she is at work.
She always said that she believed in her heart that she would be able to impress the other party and win the contract, "There is no contract that I can't win."
Later, I found out from her circle of friends that her family relationship is very healthy. Her parents have always encouraged their children, rather than ridiculing them or even educating them with sticks. No matter what setbacks they encounter, their parents will firmly say that they can do it .
As a result, this colleague, no matter which company he went to, his performance was the first.
Moreover, she is a few years older than Qing Yunfei, single and not married. But her parents still always support her decision, and they care for her slowly during the New Year and holidays, and such things as urging marriage have never happened to her.
Chu Lihua has always envied her kind of life. With her kind of life, as long as it is her favorite food, it will be in her hands as soon as possible.
The interaction between her and her parents, through the screen, Chu Lihua could feel the warmth.
What needs to be emphasized is that her highest education is only a college graduate, and her parents are both farmers, and her family has always been very poor.
It wasn't until she earned tens of thousands in Beijing every month that she started to change.
The opposite example to this example has also appeared around Chu Lihua; the daughter of their class teacher in high school, her father is a senior mathematics teacher, and her mother is a senior Chinese teacher; unfortunately, their daughter's academic performance is not very good, and sometimes, often Bottom.
Once, Chu Lihua happened to meet their head teacher who was scolding his daughter fiercely, but his daughter was just obedient there.
Seeing it made Chu Lihua feel extremely distressed, what kind of strict father education, this is a failed education at all, and it often only backfires.
Just like Chu Lihua, has she become more obedient since she was beaten up? No, on the contrary, she was just obedient in front of her parents, but behind her back, she tried every means to get herself out of her parents' control.
Not only that, most children who grew up under stick education, when they grow up, no matter how much they want to break with this relationship model, there will still be strong and difficult to dispel hatred in their hearts.
Especially if there is another child who is treated differently in the family for comparison, no matter how much you want to forgive them from your heart, you can't be calm.
Back home, Chu Lihua would feel apprehensive whenever her mother was involved.
No matter how many times Qing Yunfei told her, you have grown up, you are married, and you have your own family, but it is still useless.
Chu Lihua knew very well in her heart that her heart disease had to be solved from the root cause.
And it is impossible for her mother to cooperate with her, so I have to understand the principle little by little from my heart, and guide myself and my mother little by little.
Just like now, I call once or twice a month, say a few words, and then hang up in a hurry.
Chu Lihua will use various excuses to say that she is busy, but she is actually afraid that if she continues, this "harmonious" scene will disappear.
She didn't know how long it would take for her to truly reconcile with her mother, but now her mother's troubles for him were no longer so intense.
Just thinking about it still gives me a headache.
On the well-known Tianya Forum in China, there is a topic titled "Parents who have beaten and insulted their children many times, kneel down to your children!" "s post.
One of the netizens who suffered parental abuse wrote that although she wanted to be a good person, when she saw weak things, such as children, puppies, kittens or other small animals, she couldn't help but want to torture them.
This is actually the outward projection of her inner object relationship. This kind of projection will not end just because we want to be a good person in our consciousness. It takes extraordinary efforts and strong introspection to come out and create Your new, healthy object relationships.
Of course, Chu Lihua feels that the bad relationship between parents and children is not only due to extreme stick education, but also many kinds, the most common one is neglect.
Just like her parents, while beating, scolding and insulting extremely severely, they were completely ignored at the same time.
And Chu Lihua was also torn by such a growing environment. On the one hand, it was the kindness of her parents for giving birth, and on the other hand, she had a strong hatred for her mother.
? Personality more determines our view of the world and affects our three views, is also our chassis.
But it feels quite complicated. Everyone will make different choices when facing different nodes in life because of their personality.
In any case, having self-confidence is a very core part of personality, and it is related to the cultivation of parents' self-awareness in the family.
If it is not built well in the early stage, there must be continuous cultivation of awareness in the later stage.
Just like now, Chu Lihua has been working hard to heal herself.
There are three kinds of parents: the first kind of parents, no matter what you do, they criticize you; the second kind of parents, no matter what you do, they ignore you; the third kind of parents, no matter what you do, they criticize you encourage you. Of course, the best parents are the last ones.
Chu Lihua's is the combination of the first and the second, it's amazing!
They can criticize everything. In their world, you are useless, and beating and scolding is normal.
And sometimes, they can ignore you, it seems that there is no such daughter at all.
Interesting thing, mother always said that Chu Lihua broke her heart. Another shackle was added to Chu Lihua's heart - disobedience.
The mother's request can always dismantle the little bit of self-confidence she has built up time and time again.
When I was a child at that time, I remember washing clothes once, and I finally finished washing a lot of clothes. The whole family, the result is not praise but criticism.
It is said that the corners of the clothes have not been cleaned. I still remember that it was a pair of jeans. My mother rolled up the trousers and said that such corners should be cleaned, as well as the pockets and the waist.
That's right, Chu Lihua's laundry is super clean now, and the white clothes are still bright and white after washing. However, because she pays too much attention to these details, she always does things very slowly and pays attention to the minutiae. These minutiae always take up a lot of her time, and she can't grasp the key points.
For example, when talking to the leader, she would be obsessed with the expression of a certain sentence, or even a tone of voice and an expression, wasting a lot of time instead of spending time on the main context of the entire conversation and the problems she wanted to solve. (Remember the site URL: www.hlnovel.com - Didn't finish reading? Add this book to your favoritesI'm a member and bookmarked this chapterCopy the address of this book and recommend it to your friends for pointsChapter error? Click here to report
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