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Chapter 833 The Importance of Relationship with Parents

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    Chu Lihua replied in response, "Xiaoqi, mother is here."

    Then, Xiao Qi went to play by himself again.

    Xiaoqi looks so weak and petite, but in fact she is a complex independent individual with certain abilities.

    Seeing that she wants to be so focused on plush toys, Chu Lihua had an idea. In recent years, more and more scientific studies have shown that children's experiences in childhood will have a strong impact on their brain development.

    It seems that at this time, Xiao Qi can already be prevented from losing at the starting line.

    Studies have shown that when a baby is just born, its brain development is only 25%, but when the baby is 3 years old, more than 90% of its brain development has been completed.

    That is to say, in order for the baby to reach its greatest potential, parents need to provide it with a variety of rich and interesting learning experiences to maximize the development of her brain during the best three years.

    In recent years, many studies have shown that children's self-esteem and ability to form close emotional relationships with others depend to a large extent on their relationship with their parents.

    Intimate, loving play can greatly enhance this parent-child bond.  And indeed, games are the main way for babies who haven't gone to school, read books, or watched TV documentaries.

    However, these temporarily interact with Xiaoqi himself.  At that time, slowly let Qing Yunfei join in, and tell her these theories all at once, basically what you get will be dismissed.

    Just like raising children, the old man has to join in himself to influence them subtly and subtly.

    70% of human brain development is completed before 1 year old.  While a child's brain development is genetically influenced, their later levels of intellectual, emotional and physical development are largely determined by the amount and intensity of stimulation they received in infancy.

    Everything is a process of exploration.

    For example, the plush toy that Xiaoqi just threw out in her hand, she may not know what it is, but it is comfortable to hold, she must know now.

    As for throwing toys out and crawling over to pick them up again, this is clearly an activity for her to exercise her physical coordination.

    Chu Lihua walked over, sat next to Xiao Qi, and helped her throw away the toy she had just picked up.

    At this time, Xiao Qi would not be angry, but crawled over to pick it up, giggling happily.

    This is her mother's company, Chu Lihua knows it is very important, so she will do her best to give Xiao Qi.

    However, Chu Lihua always reminded herself that she must not let the next generation fulfill her unfulfilled wishes like the previous generation.

    Do not impose your own ideas on Xiaoqi, and must give her her own space.

    The relationship model between parents and children is the basis for children to establish relationships with other people, as well as the cornerstone of children's personality and emotional intelligence, which is more important than knowledge.

    Zeng Qifeng, a well-known domestic psychologist, said: "A person's real interpersonal relationship is the result of the outward projection of his inner object relationship."

    The so-called object relationship in this sentence refers to the internalized "relationship between me and important relatives" in our minds.

    "I" is the subject, and the important relative is the object, this relationship is called the object relationship.

    Generally speaking, the most important objects are parents, and this object relationship mainly refers to a person's internalized relationship with his parents, which is basically completed before a person is five years old.

    This object relationship has three parts: the "inner me", "inner daddy" and "inner mommy".

    The nature of their relationship determines how we relate to other human beings as we grow up.  If we had healthier relationships with our parents as children, we will have healthier relationships with others as adults.

    If we have abnormal relationship patterns with our parents as children, it will be difficult for us to get along with others healthy when we grow up.

    Therefore, Chu Lihua just wants Xiaoqi to feel the warmth of this world, and her parents love her.

    Chu Lihua secretly made up her mind that she must never let her experience repeat the same mistakes on Xiao Qi.

    She would give Xiao Qi loving touch and loving kiss at any time, expressing her love for Xiao Qi without hesitation.

    Now Xiaoqi has learned that when she is happy, she will crawl over and kiss her parents' faces.

    In such a family environment, Xiaoqi will understand what true love is when she grows up, and learn how to better handle interpersonal relationships with other people.

    ChuEvery time Hua Hua entered a company, her boss and colleagues liked her more. However, after a short period of time, both bosses and colleagues began to alienate her, and she would eventually become a loner in the company.

    This is a fact that she has been unwilling to admit, so she always has the urge to change companies in her heart, because she really wants to have a continuous good relationship.

    Even with a close girlfriend like Meng Xianxiang, they gradually became estranged halfway.

    Looking back carefully, it seems that I have no relationship that can last for a long time.  Unless it can be far away like Meng Xianxiang.

    She didn't know why before, but only after studying psychology did she know that this situation completely copied her childhood interpersonal relationship model.

    Her parents neglected her and gave most of their love to her younger sister.  In her inner object relations, the "inner self" does not believe in the love of the "inner parent", and she is always a loser when it comes to competing with her sister.

    As a result, in the current real interpersonal relationship, she does not believe that she can get the love of her boss, and once she wants to compete with other colleagues, she will always be a loser.  However, this kind of interpersonal relationship was actually "created" by herself.

    In fact, at the beginning of each company, most of her bosses and colleagues have a good impression of her easy-going personality.

    But because she has already formed a bad relationship with the object, she does not believe that she can win the goodwill of her superiors and colleagues, and will do many things intentionally or unintentionally in the next step¡ªcommonly procrastinating and forgetting, which will eventually make her relationship in the company become harmonious.  Her childhood relationship at home was exactly the same.

    As parents, we always think about "educating" our children and cultivating their qualities and abilities.  But actually, far more important than that is their relationship with their children when they are young.

    This kind of relationship will be internalized by children into the depths of their hearts, not only becoming the most important part of their personality, but also the foundation of their emotional intelligence.

    Many children who have not received a relatively good education can repeatedly break through various restrictions when they grow up, and finally achieve success in career and family. The main reason is that the relationship between their parents and them was very healthy during their childhood.  (Remember the site URL: www.hlnovel.com
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