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Chapter 659 Learn how to get along with you

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    Listening to Chu Lihua's remarks, Qing Yunfei was thoughtful. Would this problem that plagued many male compatriots not arise when he was here?

    ——"Baby, you are so sensible, isn't that"

    ——"Stop, although I understand the truth. But the key to all this is still you. You forgot what I said at the beginning. If we can put the relationship between husband and wife first, these problems will not be solved.  become problems. troubles don't become troubles."

    Chu Lihua hurriedly interrupted Xiao Jiujiu who Qing Yunfei missed the point——

    "But……"

    ——"It's nothing to worry about. Whether the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is good or not depends most on the man in the middle."

    ——"I don't think my mother is the kind of person who would make things difficult for others, so this shouldn't be a problem I will encounter."

    ——"May your optimism light your way forward."

    When there is no problem, Qing Yunfei probably does not understand the principle of taking precautions before they happen.

    Sure enough, men are from Mars, women are from Venus, they are born different.

    Since men and women come from different planets, our thinking patterns and behavior patterns are naturally different. To maintain a harmonious marriage relationship, we must find a communication method that suits each other.

    Chu Lihua remembers a very vivid example.

    ? After a hard day at work, the man returns home from get off work, nestles on the sofa in a daze, or plays with his mobile phone without saying a word.

    As soon as the woman saw this situation, she would run over immediately and ask the man what happened with concern.

    Woman: "Honey, what's the matter? It feels like you're not happy today?"

    Man: "I didn't, baby, don't worry."

    Woman: "What happened? I feel something is wrong with you today."

    Man: "Nothing."

    Woman: "How can there be nothing! You must have encountered something! Tell me, what are you thinking?"

    Man: "It's really nothing! Don't you think I'm fine? Leave me alone, let me stay alone for a while, okay!"

    Woman: "Why are you like this! Don't tell me anything, how do I know what's wrong with you! If you don't want to say it, forget it! I think you don't love me anymore!"

    So, the two quarreled.

    Thinking about the reasons for the quarrel between the couple, it seems a bit inexplicable.

    The man was tired all day, and he didn't want to talk when he went home, he just wanted to be quiet by himself.  A woman wants to make him happy out of concern for a man.  Neither side seems to be at fault, so why the quarrel?

    It was obviously a greeting out of concern, but how did it end up like this?

    It seems that Yu Xiaqiu once told herself that it was because of this that her relationship with her husband gradually became estranged.

    If you don't repeat the same mistakes, you must figure out the difference in thinking between men and women.

    ——"Let's stop strolling, let's find a place to stay and read a book. I want to learn more about how to communicate with you better, okay?"

    ——"Then go to the fast food restaurant where the food delivery staff we saw before rested. The environment there is not bad."

    Qing Yunfei thought about it for a while and gave the answer.

    ——"However, there are many people playing games there, and I want a quieter place. However, if it is not possible, I can go there."

    ——"It's estimated that I won't be able to find it in a while, but if I go next time, it would be better to bring a headset."

    ——"Yes, listening to books is a good choice. In that case, maybe the park in front will be fine too."

    This time, the communication seemed to be a lot more harmonious suddenly.

    The next day, when going out, Qing Yunfei took the initiative to help Chu Lihua put on the earphones.

    It made Chu Lihua secretly sweet again.  Although this guy sometimes speaks too harshly, but he is very careful.

    Really, as I know before, instead of spending energy arguing with a man, it's better to just tell him what you want.

    On the wobbly and crowded subway, Chu Lihua listened to a book with her earphones plugged in. Qing Yunfei used himself to prop up a small world for her, protecting her with one hand and holding the pole with the other.

    【Men from Mars are used to fighting alone, insisting on self-reliance, and will never seek help from others unless it is absolutely necessary.

    His logic is: "Why do you ask others to do things you can do by yourself?" The Martians have a "cave machine."When faced with pressure, he would hide in a cave away from the hustle and bustle, think about the problems he was facing alone, focus on seeking solutions, and carry out self-healing.

    If he finds a solution to his problem, he emerges from his cave refreshed and restored to his original self.

    If a solution is not found, he will continue to stay in the cave and brood, doing small things to divert attention until he comes up with a solution.  This is the Martian cave mechanism.  】

    At this moment, Chu Lihua suddenly opened up. No wonder the man went home and entered the cave to look at his mobile phone.

    As soon as he got home, he picked up his mobile phone to watch the news or play games, so that he could temporarily forget about the troubles in front of him.

    He talked about recent national events and world news, pointed out the country, worried about the country and the people, and those troubles during the day disappeared immediately.

    He shifted his attention to news that had nothing to do with him, and his tense nerves could slowly relax.  This is a very effective way to relieve stress and regulate mood.

    This approach also helps him refocus his attention on his wife and family after the stress has subsided.

    Chu Lihua nodded again and again, knowing what she would do in the future, giving him time to be alone for a while might have a better effect than running to comfort him.

    Inadvertently seeing the little head in his arms shaking and nodding, Qing Yunfei couldn't help tightening his arms.  It's really touching to see the little girl's face immersed in it.

    [The Venusians knew nothing about the Martian's decompression method, and did not understand his behavior of drilling into the cave.

    Venusians hope that Martians, like themselves, can speak freely when encountering problems, and let others share their troubles and anxieties.  】

    But now that I understand Qing Yunfei so well, how should I tell him when I need to confide in him?

    ——"Let's listen together, shall we?"

    Chu Lihua took off an earphone, handed it to Qing Yunfei, and looked up at him expectantly.

    ——"No, it's okay in a quiet place, but this environment is too noisy for me to hear clearly."

    Although a little disappointed, Chu Lihua soon felt relieved.

    Or, go to a quiet place and listen together, and then we can have a good discussion together.  Listen to it first, and take it as a preview.

    Moreover, these sentiments can also be written down, so that anyone who is willing to read it can read it.  Maybe it can help them too.  (Remember the site URL: www.hlnovel.com
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