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After the sweet period is over, you will suddenly see clearly what kind of person the other person is, and what little problems you can't bear. Issues that were neglected in the past when they were passionately in love will become obstacles like mountains and mountains.
Some couples think they only have two options when the feeling of being in love wears off. One is to spend a lifetime of pain with the other half, and the other is to give up the marriage and do it all over again.
More people choose to remarry now. However, according to the data obtained by a large number of research institutions, the divorce rate of the second marriage is as high as 60%, and this rate will be even higher if children are involved.
In fact, there is a better third option, which is to recognize the essence of love experience, love each other rationally and hard, and fill the love tank of yourself and your partner.
What is a love box? Chu Lihua remembers clearly that the emotional box is full of love.
Dr. Ross Campbell said: "Inside every child, there is an 'emotional tank' waiting to be filled with love.
When a child truly feels loved, he will grow normally. However, when the love tank is empty, the child develops problem behaviors.
Most of the problem behaviors in children are triggered by empty boxes. "
In other words, when a child's emotions are stable and his emotional needs are met, he is more likely to become a responsible adult.
On the contrary, when a child does not have enough love to fill the emotional tank, he is likely to be emotionally or socially unsound.
So, now, my love box is temporarily filled by Qing Yunfei, so I can think rationally.
Once the love tank is empty again, it's time to figure out how to fill it up!
Everyone has their own way of expressing love, that is, love language. Then try to find and slowly learn to speak each other's love language.
Chu Lihua remembered that she had read in a psychology book that love languages ??can be divided into five types.
They are words of affirmation, quality time, receiving gifts, acts of service, and physical touch.
In layman's terms, "words of affirmation" is to properly use positive language to encourage the other party and thank the other party for their efforts.
"Exquisite moments" are when two people concentrate on doing one thing together and give each other their full attention
"Accepting gifts" is to express love with gifts.
"Acts of service" means doing what your significant other wants you to do, pleasing him by serving, and showing your love.
"Physical contact" is to communicate love with the other half through holding hands, kissing, hugging and having sex.
When thinking of this, Chu Lihua blushed.
——"Recently, why are you always in a daze?"
However, at this time, Qing Yunfei who had been following by the side suddenly spoke.
——"I was thinking, how can we keep our love fresh, I am afraid that it will eventually return to the ordinary, without the original experience."
——"Love may turn into family affection in the end."
——"Then if you never get married, will your love last forever?"
Chu Lihua asked innocently.
—— "So, what you said when you were at my house still has this meaning?"
Qing Yunfei suddenly realized, the feeling that was stuck in his heart suddenly cleared up. Chu Lihua has always cared about herself.
——"Well, I'm actually very afraid of that kind of dull life."
Qing Yunfei stepped forward and took Chu Lihua's hand.
——"Can you hold my hand forever?"
Chu Lihua suddenly had a bold idea.
——"But when we have a baby, I have to hold the baby."
Qing Yunfei generally can't do it, so he refuses to agree.
——"Does that mean that the child is more important than me in your heart?"
Chu Lihua felt a little pissed.
——"HahahaChu Lihua, are you trying to kill me? You even eat your own child's jealousy."
Qing Yunfei laughed happily.
——"Parents in a healthy family love their child deeply and raise him, not to share this result with himself, not to stick with the child forever, but to push him out of the house and into a wider world, Let him live an independent and autonomous life.
As for him, he is bound to find a partner and have his own children.
When his child grows up, he will also learn from his parents and push his child into the wider world.Love is constantly passed on in this cycle, from our original family to our newborn family.
The family is the carrier of love, which is passed from parents to children, and then passed down by children. However, the first place in the family should not be the relationship between parent and child, but the relationship between husband and wife.
Zeng Qifeng, a well-known domestic psychologist, described the relationship between husband and wife as "the magic needle of the family".
In a "three generations under the same roof" family with parents-in-law, husband and wife, and children, if the husband-wife relationship is the core of the family and has the first say, then the family will be as stable as a rock.
On the contrary, if the parent-child relationship overrides the husband-wife relationship, and actually includes the relationship between parents-in-law and husband, husband and child, wife and child, then the two most common problems will arise:
One is a bad relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law; the other is a serious love child complex. "
—— "I found that you are now more and more like that Qin Qing. Everything you say is a set. It's just that what you said is not too exaggerated."
Qing Yunfei grabbed Chu Lihua into his arms, and this kind of Chu Lihua really became more and more likable.
——"The two points I mentioned just now complement each other. If there is a bad relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law in a newly established family, it can generally be inferred that there was also a bad mother-in-law relationship in the previous "new family" of the mother-in-law. mother-in-law relationship.
And that bad relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law allowed the mother-in-law to establish a very close relationship with her son.
For this mother-in-law, her son, not her husband, is her closest person and the person she can't let go of.
However, when her son wants to separate, find a lover, and start a new family of his own, as a mother-in-law, how sad she will be.
She will feel that she has lost the most important person in her life, so she will intentionally or unintentionally prevent her son from establishing the closest relationship with his wife.
As for the son, he knew before that he was the most important person in the mother's heart, and to the mother, he was more important than the father.
In the past, he was proud of this, but now, he wants to "repay" his mother. Therefore, he couldn't bear to "betray" his mother and establish the closest relationship with his wife.
This is the psychological secret that makes it difficult for many mother-in-law and daughter-in-law to get along.
On the contrary, if the most important person in the mother-in-law's mind is always the husband and not the son, then the separation from the son will not be so uncomfortable.
On the contrary, she will be happy to see that her son has found the person he loves the most, that he can have his family and his life.
At this time, the mother-in-law will bless the daughter-in-law, and wish that the daughter-in-law and son will soon embark on the road of happiness that she and her husband have walked. "(Remember this site URL: www.hlnovel.com - Didn't finish reading? Add this book to your favoritesI'm a member and bookmarked this chapterCopy the address of this book and recommend it to your friends for pointsChapter error? Click here to report
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