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We usually think that the Spring Festival is for reunion, so we have to go home for the New Year. But in fact, major festivals often have an important purpose-sacrifice.
For example, our four major festivals, Spring Festival, Tomb-sweeping Day, Dragon Boat Festival and Mid-Autumn Festival, except Mid-Autumn Festival is for worshiping the moon, the other three festivals are all for worshiping. The Spring Festival and Qingming Festival are for worshiping ancestors, while the Dragon Boat Festival is for Qu Yuan who committed suicide by jumping into the Miluo River.
Sacrifice has a lofty status in our culture, so "Zuo Zhuan" says that "the great affairs of the country lie in the worship and the army." "Rong" means war, and "sacrifice" means sacrifice.
I don¡¯t know what the customs are like in the Northeast. On the morning of the first day of the Lunar New Year in my hometown in Yunnan, the male juniors have to get up early and go from house to house to kowtow to the elders, and kowtow three times. Then go home to eat, and then go to the ancestor's grave to worship.
In short, the Spring Festival was originally an important time to worship ancestors. Therefore, at this time, as a childbearing culture and clan culture, we have a superego in the family¡ªthe great ancestor.
We have to complete the task of carrying on the family line so that we can pass on the genes of our great ancestors.
This is probably the reason why we will have a serious problem of forced marriages during the Spring Festival.
Once I accidentally found such a passage in the book "The Deep Structure of Chinese Culture" by Taiwanese scholar Sun Longji, and I should be able to explain it in depth.
"Under fertility culture and clan culture, a person is incomplete and cannot constitute the basic social unit of existence.
Single men and older leftover women who have never married are excluded from the family system, just like marginalized people such as lunatics. Without the right to speak, material interests will also be ignored.
You must get married and have children to form a complete family, and then this family will form a recognized social unit and exist in the society and family system.
This explanation is very powerful. If society has been like this for thousands of years, then of course it will become a deep imprint, imprinted deep in our subconscious mind.
Although we are not consciously aware of this, it can become a very basic anxiety. "
"How can anyone not get married? If so, wouldn't they be ridiculed by others!"
Chu Lihua thought of her mother's heart-piercing accusation in her sobs.
In fact, in the final analysis, the reason why I persisted so much was to complete the tasks assigned by my mother.
Even if I consciously feel that I want to find someone to redeem myself, but subconsciously, I still dare not go against my mother's ideas. Attempt to do this, in exchange for mother's understanding and true love.
Otherwise, it would be better to live a comfortable life alone.
In this world, finding two people who are truly compatible is harder than winning a lottery.
Even if you are willing to cater to the changes a little bit, it depends on whether the person is willing to cooperate.
As an outsider, Chu Lihua really had more than enough energy to help Qing Yunfei's cousin get out of this predicament.
If you can't convince your mother, then Qing Yunfei should be a good choice.
At least, after getting married, if you divorce, you can attribute the reason to Qing Yunfei.
While thinking this way, the good wishes about love in Chu Lihua's heart dissipated bit by bit.
With my own adjustment, it is not easy to meet someone who is sincere to me.
It's a pity that I didn't cherish it at the time. Now, we can only forget each other in the rivers and lakes.
A person's road may not be as slow as imagined.
When the broken soul is repaired by the magnificent scenery, go and see if you are lucky enough to feel the prosperity of the world again!
A broken heart is a disintegration of the self, which is a very painful experience. Those who are too broken will face this feeling all the time, so they are always looking for opportunities to escape the brokenness and find a sense of wholeness.
When you are single, it is easiest to face brokenness, but building an intimate relationship or even a family seems complete.
Therefore, getting married and having children to form a family still has this function.
On the contrary, people who are not married or divorced will experience a feeling of incompleteness in their hearts. At this time, if others still talk about themselves and look down on themselves, they may really be tricked.
Many single people and divorced people do not want to go home or see friends during Chinese New Year, because they are worried that they will be regarded as "abnormal people" by the people around them.
There are still many people who dare not tell the people around them when they are divorced, because they are afraid of being criticized.
On the one hand, it is true that there are always people who like to judge right from wrong, but on the other hand, I also feel that I have not built a complete life at the right age.Family, like not normal.
When celebrating the New Year alone, it is really possible to touch my own broken heart, and I really feel that I am incomplete at that time. This sense of incompleteness is also real.
¡ª¡ª"Chu Lihua, eat vegetables, why do you only eat white rice?"
Qing Yunfei's mother picked up several chopstick dishes for Chu Lihua and put them in her bowl, urging her.
Chu Lihua just came back to her senses, why did she suddenly have such a deep understanding in such an occasion?
Chu Lihua couldn't help having goose bumps all over her body.
She has never experienced the excitement of this kind of happy big family in her life.
When I was at my own home, my mother and the relatives over there didn't get along well because the other party had gone too far.
But now, even in such an environment that I once dreamed of, I still feel out of place, and I obviously feel that I can't fit into it.
After the banquet was over, Chu Lihua got up and went out with everyone, as if she had just joined a new group dinner.
Still chatting and leaving in twos and threes.
Dudu Chu Lihua, she was alone in this group of lively crowd.
¡ª¡ª"Be careful the road is slippery, there is a lot of snow here."
Qing Yunfei's mother suddenly came over and grabbed Chu Lihua's arm.
Chu Lihua looked down, indeed, this place happened to be a slope. The snow on it has hardened, and it is easy to slip and fall if you are not careful.
He listened carefully to Qing Yunfei's voice, and sure enough, he was chatting beside Li Hongyang. We had a great time chatting.
Helplessly smiled bitterly, why didn't he find him to deceive others.
It's okay, this way, if we separate in the future, no one will be hurt too deeply.
After the dinner, Qing Yunlong and Li Hongyang took their children to Li Hongyang's house to celebrate the new year.
It should be that the person he wanted to see was gone, and Qing Yunfei also planned to leave with Chu Lihua.
At this time, I want to buy some train tickets back to Beijing, because there are not so many people returning.
It's a sleeper in two days' time.
Qing Yunfei's mother actively prepared ingredients for her to take away, as well as some local specialties such as fungus.
This, however, is somewhat similar to Chu Lihua's mother.
Every time Chu Lihua leaves home, her mother always brings her something extra.
However, in her opinion, she did this because the things at home are cheap, and bringing more can save money. (Remember the site URL: www.hlnovel.com - Didn't finish reading? Add this book to your favoritesI'm a member and bookmarked this chapterCopy the address of this book and recommend it to your friends for pointsChapter error? Click here to report
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