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Chapter 609 "I" is always looking for "you"

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    If we are warm, they make us warmer.  If we are cold, this warmth will melt the ice in our hearts.

    At that time, Deng Yudong accidentally opened Chu Lihua's heart.  That's why Chu Lihua began to become attached.  However, she didn't know how to be attached, so some things backfired.

    The so-called attachment is a person's emotion that can be opened to the object of emotion.  Attachment types can be divided into secure, avoidant, ambivalent, and disorganized.

    Most people belong to one of the first three types, and their performance is relatively stable, but some people will constantly change among these three types, which is called disordered type.

    Chu Lihua used to be an avoidant type, but later became a bit like a contradictory type.  Later, it is completely secure attachment.

    It's okay, the object of attachment didn't fully catch my emotions, so it started to become disordered.

    How attachment happens.

    The simplest understanding is: the self is always looking for the object, and "I" is always looking for "you".  Animals such as children, cats, dogs, and parrots all naturally seek attachment to emotional objects.

    If it is said that my desire for you has received a positive response from you, then this motivation has established a link between me and you, and I will express my attachment to you.

    Chu Lihua remembers that when she first learned the classification of various attachments, she quickly settled in and analyzed herself.

    "The secure attachment is because my desire for you received relatively consistent positive responses, and in the end I am sure that this expression is basically welcome.

    The avoidant attachment is because my longing for you gets a consistent indifferent response, and in the end I block my longing for you.

    Contradictory attachment means that I cannot get a stable style of response from you, you are hot and cold, so my emotional expression becomes contradictory.  "

    【When a baby is born, he feels that he is an omnipotent god. As soon as he makes a thought, the world should respond according to his desire.

    If the world never responds, the baby will develop narcissistic rage, wishing to destroy the whole world, because he has a sense of omnipotence, so at this time he really feels that as soon as he rages, the world will be destroyed by him  destroy.

    He can't accept that he is so bad, and then he will project this badness that destroys the world to the outside world.  This makes him feel that there is a devil in the outside world, and this devil makes him feel terrible, so he wants to build a copper wall to separate himself from this devil, so that this devil can not attack him.

    However, after the iron wall was built, it also meant that he trapped himself in it, and his vitality was also suffocated in it.  】

    If Qing Yunfei can completely accept himself, then even if he has accumulated a lot of "badness" since he was a baby, he can slowly be resolved by complete acceptance.

    Rather than saying that Chu Lihua has love and attachment to Qing Yunfei.  Rather, it was an excellent object that she happened to find around her after studying psychology, which might heal her.

    After calming down and analyzing, Chu Lihua felt that she seemed to be sorry for Qing Yunfei.

    Well then, treat him better, better.

    As long as he healed his various personality defects caused by parenting problems since he was a child.

    Well, it's all worth it.

    No wonder it is said that love must have a plan for each other.

    You want my beauty or something, I want your money or something.

    What Chu Lihua has always wanted to pursue is a soul mate, the kind of partner who can baptize her soul.  Now, it has a nice name called "Soul Ferryman".

    ——"Seeing your caring in the morning is warmer than bathing in the sunshine of March in Yangchun.

    It turns out that the greatest gift the years have given me is that I have the honor to meet you!  "

    After Chu Lihua sent it over, Qing Yunfei sent a kissing animated emoji.

    The days of blending oil with honey always pass quickly.

    In a blink of an eye, it's the weekend.

    Chu Lihua slowly woke up in Qing Yunfei's arms.

    The sunlight outside the window had already mischievously slipped through the gap in the curtains and ran into the wall of the house to play——

    "woke up?"——

    "Um."

    —— "Where are you going to play today?"

    Qing Yunfei said while rubbing his arm that was numb from Chu Lihua's pressure.

    ——"It's already November and I want to go to Xiangshan. The scenery of Wanshan red and forests is always in my mind, but I have never seen it with my own eyes."In fact, there is another important reason, Chu Lihua wants to walk with Qing Yunfei to every scenic spot that he and Wu Ming have visited before, and use new good memories to cover the dusty memories.

    In the future, whenever I recall it, it will be a refreshing and beautiful picture.

    The road to Xiangshan is always busy on weekends.

    Chu Lihua almost ate up all the snacks that Qing Yunfei carried in his backpack.

    —— "How far is it?"

    Nestled in the small world supported by Qing Yunfei's arms, Chu Lihua didn't feel any discomfort at all.  Except for the legs that were already numb from standing.

    ——"Come on, there are still more than three kilometers left, and there are only two stops."

    ——"If it doesn't work, why don't we get out of the car and go there? Anyway, three kilometers is not very far."

    Chu Lihua always seems to have plenty of energy.

    ——"Okay, as long as you don't feel too tired to climb the mountain later."

    ——"Master, open the door and let's get out of the car."

    Before they could speak, someone shouted in the carriage.

    Take a look at the car door.  A large group of people came down.

    In order to prevent Chu Lihua from being jostled, Qing Yunfei held her with one hand and wrapped her around her with the other.

    It is no longer as awkward as the last time I went to the Great Wall.

    ——"Brother Yunfei, will you always hold my hand?"

    ——"I can't say this for sure yet. But, with my current heart, I'm definitely willing."

    Qing Yunfei's words, although always feel a little subtle.  However, Chu Lihua heard the sincerity.

    He doesn't make promises easily.

    When it was time to climb the mountain, Chu Lihua discovered that Qing Yunfei was obviously weak in climbing mountains.

    ——"Brother Yunfei, take a few steps forward and I'll record a video for you."

    Chu Lihua deliberately wanted to preserve Qing Yunfei's panting appearance so that he could tease him later.

    Of course Qing Yunfei did as he did.

    However, no matter how Chu Lihua yelled to turn back, Qing Yunfei pretended not to hear.

    She only recorded a back view, and a woman in a red dress jumped out beside her.

    Chu Lihua wanted to do another one.

    Qing Yunfei took her to take a group photo.

    Embarrassing, it happened here.

    The difference in height between the two is too big. Focusing on Qing Yunfei, only the top of Chu Lihua's head is inside the screen.

    After focusing on Chu Lihua, only Qing Yunfei's chin was exposed.

    Qing Yunfei squatted down a little, and Chu Lihua stood on tiptoe, but the photos he took were not so harmonious.  (Remember the site URL: www.hlnovel.com
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