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Chapter 211 In the Name of Love

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    "Ah! Uncle, your child looks so handsome! Did you also look like this when you were young?"

    Chu Lihua took it with both hands and looked it over.

    "Ah! What's the use of being handsome, you don't even have a daughter-in-law."

    Auntie just came out with a plate of dishes.

    "Auntie can't say that, it's because fate hasn't arrived yet. Besides, I'm so busy with work, I don't have the opportunity to meet more people!"

    Chu Lihua said something nice for them.

    To be honest, for parents, this is a big problem.  But for children, this is a rare free time!

    "Alas! You children don't know. As long as you don't get married for a day, your parents will worry about it. Only when you get married will our mission be truly accomplished!"

    Speaking of this, my aunt was filled with emotion.

    "But Auntie, most of the time, it's just our parents' wishful thinking. Western developed countries all advocate that a child becomes an adult at the age of 18, and he can decide for himself in the future. We always say to learn from Westerners, but,  Parents can't help but interfere too much with their children.

    The love in your parents' mouths may be oppression and responsibility in your children's hearts.  Originally, it was a good thing to find someone to accompany you for a lifetime, but after turning it into a task that must be completed, the sense of happiness in it was much less.  Living like that is boring.  "

    For this, Chu Lihua has a deep understanding.

    "You children are still young and you will not understand your parents' painstaking efforts until later."

    Auntie very much disagreed with Chu Lihua's point of view.

    "Auntie, what I'm going to say next is all from a child's point of view. In your opinion, it may be a bit deviant. However, it is really our voice. Maybe your child or someone else  Thinking differently. But I really do think so."

    Chu Lihua decided that it would be better to explain in advance.

    "Okay! Then tell me what marriage is in the eyes of you young people."

    Auntie also sat down opposite Chu Lihua in a serious manner.

    "Auntie, first of all, marriage and childbirth are the exclusive rights of each of us, because this is our own life and belongs to the private domain. In China, after two or three years after graduation, college students are forced to marry and have children, buy a house  It is not uncommon to buy a car. Before you have fully grown into an independent adult, you will bear a heavy family burden and financial burden prematurely, thus losing the opportunity to pursue self-growth.

    One of my mother's favorite sayings is 'I did this for your own good', but that's not called love, that's called manipulation and control.  I've never felt love in it.  Instead, there is a sense of suffocation.  what is love?  Love is just its opposite, called understanding and acceptance.  Many people's parents are immature, and they care too much about their children, for fear that they will go the wrong way, suffer losses, or miss some good opportunities.

    But the problem is that such excessive care is not only useless, it may also cheat the child and do bad things with good intentions, thus ruining the child's life.  I remember what my parents often said to me was, 'I have eaten more salt than you have eaten rice, and I have walked more bridges than you have traveled.  '

    However, now that we have entered the era of rapid Internet development and waves of high technology are sweeping in, will the elderly have more knowledge than the young?  Obviously not, their thinking concepts and knowledge levels are still at their age.  It is possible that they were also excellent in their era, but from the macro level of time and history, they are already in a backward state.

    The waves behind the Yangtze River drive the waves ahead, and one generation is stronger than the previous generation. We must believe that what young people see and gain, on the whole, must be more than the previous generation, because they stand on the shoulders of giants, and they have a wider range of means to acquire knowledge and accept concepts.  More avant-garde, society as a whole is progressive.

    The post-80s and post-90s are always called the generation that will not grow up, and they are worried by various public opinions.  But what about when we really grow up, in the eyes of your parents, no matter how old the child is, he is still my child.  I will not harm my child!

    What do we do as children?  Being obedient and filial ruined his happiness for the rest of his life.  Faced with parents, they have to bear huge social pressure.  The whole kinship group will say bad things about you.  This is actually the reason why I really don't want to go home for the New Year.  Now that technology is so advanced, video is available at any time.  However, there is nowhere for people to escape when they are nagging face to face.

    In fact, children and grandchildren have their own blessings, and those who should let go have to let go.  What they want may not be clear at first, but a few more?? Somersault, you will know for sure.

    The younger you are, the lower the cost of trial and error. As you get older, you will bear more and more responsibilities. If you have not transformed as soon as possible before that, you will grow into a truly thoughtful and independent adult.  Then his life will be immature, and they will be at a disadvantage when competing with others.

    At that time, no matter how regretful the parents are, it will be useless to the children. Some of them may catch up with adversity, but it will be very hard, and some of them may become mediocre from now on.  Pass on your mediocre values ??to your children to affect his life.

    Therefore, Auntie, what children need most is to respect their choices.  Don't indulge your desire to control in the name of love.  These words are what I especially want to say to my parents.  Now, let me talk to you, auntie, and practice it.

    Auntie, if you think it makes sense, listen to it. If you think it makes sense, just treat it as just chatting with me, okay?  "

    Seeing that her aunt couldn't sit still, Chu Lihua felt that she might have gone too far.

    "Lihua, Auntie didn't expect you young people to think this way. No wonder, every time I bring up this matter, he always talks about him. Now, they call home less and less. Every time  He just said a few words, asked about our physical condition, and hung up before I could talk about his marriage. It seems that we are really old. "

    Chu Lihua didn't expect her aunt to say that.

    "Auntie, it's not that you're getting old. It's that society is progressing. Think about it, people in ancient times were about to get married at the age of thirteen or fourteen. Now people at this age are still children? Isn't it? I really envy your children  , with parents like you who can reason."

    This point is really in Chu Lihua's heart.

    Her own mother always said that Chu Lihua was too stupid and naive, and she would always suffer in the future.  (Remember the site URL: www.hlnovel.com
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