"What is the superficial relationship between grandparents and grandchildren?"
Tina blurted out, and after finishing speaking, she wanted to bite her tongue off in annoyance.
Grandma Yu showed her approval:
"Your question is very good, at least express your attitude of wanting to solve this matter. If you want to do something whether you are happy or not, why not be happy, right? The superficial love between grandparents and grandchildren is me Do your duty as a grandma, and you also cooperate to fulfill your duty as a granddaughter. You can scold me and blame me in your heart, but in front of outsiders, you must maintain respect for your elders Seriously, I am doing this for your own good, If the elders are not disrespectful, but a young man yells at the elders, no matter which country you are in, you will be blocked by the normal social circle. Others will think you are a bad person. Think about it, they are willing to associate with you , can only be the same bad people."
Tina was shocked by what Grandma Yu said.
She couldn't help imagining it, if the Xu family stopped her on the campus of Columbia University, and she swears at each other, and the Xu family revealed their identity to her classmates and friends, what would the friends think of her?
She can explain it to a friend.
What about explainable content?
If she speaks out, her friends will think she is strange.
The relatives who had been lost for many years came to the door, but she had a bad attitude.
Tina fell silent for a moment.
Her attitude towards the Xu family is really unreasonable.
In the United States, even for adopted children, when the biological parents come to the door to identify themselves, most of the adoptive parents and children will not reject it. Legally, the biological parents can't take advantage of it, and the reconnection is only out of emotion.
The biological parents will not be turned away, and will contact several times a year, walking around as relatives who are not far or near.
? If you can't raise a child, sending it up for adoption is to give the child a way to survive.
She can regard the Xu family as such a relationship.
There is a blood relationship, but emotionally distant, the two sides maintain this kind of politeness, so there is no need to embarrass it?
Tina nodded unknowingly: "If it's just like this, I can do it."
Is that all right?
Xu Changle saw that his grandma, the old god, was there, so he knew that his sister Tina had fallen into the pit.
But for the sake of family reunion, how could he remind Tina that this was a hole dug by his own grandmother.
"I was going to sign an agreement with you, but after thinking about it, I decided to forget it. Although Cuiyou are different from her. You have blood from the Xu family in your body. I will trust you once. But there is only one chance. , if you tear up our verbal agreement, I will be too disappointed in you. Believe me, you don't want to see what I will look like after being disappointed in a person. "
Yu grandma despises Cui Yiru in her words.
Tina felt sorry for her mother, but she didn't dare to refute.
Others feel that Cui Yiru did something wrong and paid the price with his life, so there is no need to pursue those wrong things. So no one spoke ill of Cui Yiru in front of Tina, but grandma despised her for her righteousness. Tina felt that if she made a difference, the old lady would degrade her mommy into the dust.
"Then what exactly should I do?"
"Keep our verbal agreement confidential. When outsiders are around, you should respect me. I may have to teach you something, but I won't force you to learn it or not."
It was too fierce at the beginning, but now that the request is made, Tina actually finds it a bit simple.
She nodded, "I can do it!"
Grandma Yu hummed lightly, "Xiaolan, pour me a cup of tea, I'm going to give her her first class today!"
Pfft¡ª¡ª
Why does this old lady have so many tricks.
Xia Xiaolan held back her laughter.
No, she can't dismantle such a serious scene on grandma's stage.
Tina didn't understand these customs at all, so she looked blank.
Xu Zhongyi lowered his voice: "The juniors in the family have to say goodbye to the elders before going far away, and tell the elders when they return home from afar."
The juniors who have returned from afar must "greeting" to the elders.
After the establishment of Huaguo and entering the modern society, many rules have become outdated and can only be simplified. It's not a feudal society, and no one will give a big "please" anymore.
But simplification does not mean no.
Going home after going out for a long time, bringing something alone to visit the elders, to show that you have returned safely, is still a book of etiquette that many modern people consciously adhere to. For example, young people who work outside and only go home once or twice a year will want to bring something to visit their grandparents and grandparents.
Tina didn't want to recognize the Xu family, so she wouldn't bring anything to Grandma Yu.
Therefore, Grandma Yu asked her to toast a cup of tea, which was regarded as full of courtesy.
Tina, in another sense, is the daughter of the "returning from afar" of the Xu family.
Xia Xiaolan handed the teacup to Tina:
"Here, pass your hands to your grandma and invite her to drink tea. It's very simple."
Tina hesitated while holding the tea.
She was completely led into rhythm, and did as Xia Xiaolan said in a daze.
Passed the teacup out, opened his mouth, but couldn't call out "Grandma", and mumbled "You drink tea".
Grandma Yu kept a straight face, while Xu Changle pleaded.
Grandma Yu muttered: "Forget it, it's still a long time, so I'll teach you slowly."
The old lady took the teacup, wet her mouth, put down the teacup, took out a red envelope from her pocket and handed it to Tina: "You do your duty, and I will do my duty too. I don't know you If you like something, I will give you some pocket money to buy it yourself."
Um? !
Give her money?
This old lady is crazy, she is not short of money at all, she has a cash inheritance of more than 20 million US dollars, and some real estate.
Looking at this old lady again, she doesn't have any jewelry on her body, so she must not be as rich as her.
But the expression of giving her a red envelope, and the expression of not taking the money seriously, nor asking her if she likes it.
Without waiting for Tina to react, Grandma Yu looked at the clock on the wall and stood up from the sofa:
"Okay, it's getting late. I, an old woman, can't compare my body with you young people. Now it's time for me to sleep. You don't have to stay in this room and feel uncomfortable. You can go. I think tonight is a good night." At the beginning, I hope this verbal agreement can be fulfilled all the time.¡±
So, this is driving her away?
With a look of impatience, it was just like what the old lady said, just going through the motions and fulfilling the obligations that "grandma" should have.
Tina went out angrily, still holding a red envelope in her hand.
Now, it was Tina and Xu's father and son who were invited out of the room.
The door slammed shut.
Xu Changle smiled awkwardly: "Grandma has a temper that is cold on the outside and hot on the inside."
Tina looked at him suspiciously.
She is not so easy to deceive, and will never believe her brother's words again.
Why is it cold on the outside and hot on the inside? This is an old lady from Huaguo who is serious on the outside and hard as a rock on the inside.
Holding the red envelope, Tina walked quickly to the elevator¡ªit was so embarrassing, she actually thought that the other party would cry and say that she missed her as a "granddaughter", apologize to her, show weakness and cultivate feelings with her, tell Her Xu family loves her very much and looks forward to her returning to the Xu family.