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Volume 2: Good Boy, Bad Man Chapter 82: Old Feudalism

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    Seeing Xi Yan there, she didn't know how to answer.

    Liu Ye smiled and said, "Do you think answering my question will make you feel like you have overturned your own theory?"

    Xiyan nodded, "Yes, obviously the freedom of marriage advocated by society now should be better, but why is the family happiness index not as good as that of arranged marriages in the past? I don't understand, and I don't want to admit it, but this is definitely a fact.  Grandpa Liu, why do you think this is?"

    Liu Ye still appreciates Xi Yan's non-stubborn character in the face of this fact.

    "This is the crux of the problem I want to tell you." Liu Ye smiled and refilled himself a cup of tea, "As you said, the freedom of marriage now is indeed better than the arranged marriage of our generation.  I admit it, but why are the marriages and families formed by free love not as stable as the arranged marriages we had in the past? To put it bluntly, the key to the problem lies in people. "

    "Human, why do you say that?" Hearing this, Xiyan couldn't help but wonder.

    Liu Ye said meaningfully, "Society is changing, and so is human nature."

    Xiyan couldn¡¯t understand it even more.

    "I won't comment on your current lifestyle, because after all, the current society belongs to you. I just want to talk about why people of our generation can live happily in arranged marriages. However, I will say it.  You can¡¯t scold me for being pedantic or feudal in your heart." Liu Yeping said this with a childish tone.

    Xiyan said respectfully, "No, Grandpa Liu, please tell me."

    "Girl, have you ever heard of the saying 'the husband is the guide for his wife'?" Liu Ye asked Xi Yan first.

    "I know, this is one of the three cardinal principles and five constant principles. It seems to mean that the husband sings and the wife follows. Anyway, no matter what the husband says, no matter whether it is right or wrong, the wife should unconditionally obey it. To put it bluntly, it is an inhumane feudal poison." As a contemporary  The young man's face seemed to be very resistant and dissatisfied with this sentence.

    "Yes, the Three Cardinal Guidelines and the Five Permanent Constitutions are indeed incomprehensible and unacceptable to most people in today's era of pursuing all kinds of equality. After all, they are indeed a set of theories that were only applicable to feudal society in the past. You take the phrase 'the husband is the guideline for the wife'  It makes sense to compare it to the lingering poison of feudalism." Liu Ye first expressed his approval of Xi Yan's words.

    "However, as an ethical principle that has dominated China's history for thousands of years, its existence must have its own meaning and value, don't you think?"

    Seeing Xi Yan nodding in acquiescence, Liu Ye continued.

    "The simple understanding of the three cardinal principles and the five constant principles is the behavioral ethics that adjusts and regulates the human relations between superiors and subordinates, fathers and sons, brothers, husbands and wives, friends, etc. From a theoretical perspective, this is definitely very desirable, because it is an attitude.  This attitude was just taken too seriously by the executors, and it became a feudal poison that restrained human nature. "

    Speaking of which, Liu Ye took a sip of tea to moisten his throat.

    Xiyan quickly helped to get another drink, "Grandpa Liu, please continue."

    "I say this just as a matter of opinion. It does not mean that I advocate certain theories in the Three Cardinal Guidelines and Five Permanent principles, nor does it mean that I oppose certain theories in the Three Guidelines and Five Permanent principles. I just want to use the personal experience of our generation to explain why we have arranged everything.  The quality of your marriage will be even higher than your current free marriage."

    "In our time, we were in the transition period between the old and the new systems of Chinese society. We were anti-'ancient' in our hearts, but we also had 'ancient' in our hearts. This explains why although most of the marriages in this period were arranged marriages, they were able to  The reason for happiness and stability.¡±

    "Think about it, what kind of form will it take when the concept of pursuing equality and the feudal concept of 'husband is the guide for wife' are integrated. It is a fusion of the tolerant nature of men and the gentle nature of women.  Although it is still an arranged marriage, how could there be any unhappy situation, because men and women at that time knew best what role they should play in a family, do you understand what I am saying. "

    "I don't understand." Xiyan said truthfully, "Do you mean that if you want a harmonious marriage, you should be like what is sung in the Huangmei Opera, where one plows the field and the other weaves.  ah."

    "The direction is right, but the explanation is wrong." Liu Ye refuted Xi Yan's explanation, "We still have an old saying, if you marry a chicken, follow the chicken, if you marry a dog, follow the dog, if you marry a dog, follow the dog. Do you know what it means.  "

    "It should be similar to a husband singing and a wife accompanying her, but this also conflicts with the ideas of our young people today."

    "Yes, this is what I mean when I say society is changing and people are changing too."

    "What do you say?"

      "Now that society has changed, that is progress, which is a good thing, but people have changed, which means human nature has changed. When men and women in a marriage cannot distinguish priorities, then the marriage cannot be guaranteed."

    "I still don't quite understand." Xi Yan put forward the reason, "According to your point of view, if we have to distinguish priorities, we still cannot achieve equality between men and women. This is completely contrary to reality."

    "So, it is because of the pursuit of a realistic character that families often break up. Think about it, no one is convinced by anyone, no one wants to compromise, and everyone has their own reasons for being self-righteous. Everyone can express his or her own opinion.  It¡¯s a matter of priority, how can we not give in?¡±

    Hearing Liu Ye's sudden words, Xiyan suddenly felt something in her heart, "You mean you and me."

    Because Liu Ye¡¯s last words seemed to be related to the real reason for her disagreement with Liu Xiaobing.

    "Girl, I know we are several dozen years apart. There must be a generation gap when we communicate in terms of thoughts and language. Your grandfather and I grew up in the war years and read few books. Sometimes we want to express an idea.  Often the words don¡¯t express what I mean, so I¡¯ll say it more directly without beating around the bush.

    You and he live in different environments. You grew up in an open metropolis, while he grew up in a closed mountain village. This is destined to have differences in your thoughts. Then something will happen. Maybe you will try to be fresh for a while.  You like rural life, and he will also like city life due to temporary yearning, but in the end you will both return to your familiar living environment, because only that kind of environment is suitable for you.

    If you really get married and encounter this situation, then if neither party makes a compromise, then there will be a real problem. At this time, the so-called pursuit of equality you mentioned will become the key to the problem.  Because if you want a harmonious marriage, one party must try to adapt to the other.  "

    Seeing Xi Yan preparing to interrupt, Liu Ye raised his hand to interrupt her.

    "Of course, this is just a hypothetical if. Maybe when you really get married, you won't encounter such a thing at all. Maybe it's not because he loves you too much, so he completely follows your ideas. That is  In your small family, you are the primary and others are secondary, and vice versa, the same principle applies.¡±

    After Liu Ye finished speaking, he picked up the tea cup again.

    "Then you said that if you really encountered such a situation, what would you choose?" Xiyan seized the opportunity and finally interjected.

    "Well, there is a generation gap in our thinking." Liu Ye put down his tea cup and lay back on the rocking chair, "I know that there is no need to prioritize marriage, marriage, and whether a woman marries a man or not. As for the future,  How can I know what you are like, right?"

    When Xiyan heard that this was Liu Xiaobing's rhythm, she just wanted to say a few words.

    "You promised me, you are not allowed to call me pedantic, let alone old feudal." After Liu Ye said this, he closed his eyes and did a restful posture, and at the same time hummed the song "The Match of the Immortals".

    Xiyan bit her lower lip and looked at Liu Ye with a look of resentment: You are partial to your grandson, it¡¯s just the old feudal thinking that¡¯s causing trouble, huh~

    At this time, Xiyan regretted coming to Liu Ye to complain.

    Because she felt as if she had actively jumped into a trap
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